The Therapist Who Helped Me See Clearly Again

“A small space, but the kind that makes you feel safe enough to finally understand yourself.”

When Everything Started Falling Apart

There are moments in life where everything feels wrong.

Not a little off. Not just a bad day.

Everything.

Your choices. Your relationships. Your life. Yourself.

And the hardest part is that you cannot even explain why.

I saw Wilhelmina for the first time right after COVID.

We had just moved to Cyprus in February 2020. A new country, a new life, a fresh start. And then suddenly everything stopped.

Lockdown. Isolation. No support.

I was alone in a place that was supposed to become home.

And slowly, something inside me started to collapse.

I was angry all the time.

Not a little irritated. Angry.

Nothing felt right anymore. Not my family, not my choices, not my career, not even my friendships.

It felt like my whole world didn’t make sense anymore.

Meeting the Therapist Who Truly Sees You

That’s when I met Wilhelmina de Boer.

And I didn’t meet “a therapist”.

I met someone who sees.

She has this calm, grounded presence that immediately makes you feel safe.

She listens in a way that goes beyond words.

No judgment. No pressure.

Just clarity.

And when you are lost, clarity is everything.

Why Her Approach to Therapy Feels Different

She doesn’t tell you what to do.

She doesn’t try to fix you.

She helps you understand.

And that’s a big difference.

With her, you start seeing things you didn’t see before.

Your patterns.

Your reactions.

And something that surprised me the most… how much of it comes from childhood.

Things you thought were just part of who you are.

Ways of reacting, protecting yourself, coping.

Until you realize they were built a long time ago.

The Moment I Realized It Was Deeper Than I Thought

At first, I thought everything I was feeling was because of the situation.

Moving countries. COVID. Isolation.

But it wasn’t just that.

It was deeper.

And that was hard to face.

Because once you see it, you cannot ignore it anymore.

But at the same time, that is where things start to change.

Learning to Pause Instead of Pushing Through

One of the most important things she gave me was not advice.

It was permission.

Permission to pause.

To stop pushing through everything.

To stop trying to control everything.

To be gentle with myself.

At that time, I didn’t even know how to do that.

I was used to holding everything together.

But she made me understand that constantly pushing is not strength.

Sometimes, stopping is.

Why It’s So Hard to Explain What Therapy Really Changes

And this is where it becomes difficult to explain.

Because I don’t think I will ever find the right words to describe how helpful she has been.

It’s not something you can measure.

It’s not something you can clearly explain.

It’s more subtle than that.

You just start to feel different.

Clearer.

Lighter.

More aligned.

More yourself.

More Than Therapy, Something Deeper

Wilhelmina is not just a therapist.

She is deeply human.

Kind. Calm. Wise.

You feel safe with her.

And that changes everything.

Because when you feel safe, you open.

And when you open, things move.

She also writes books and offers workshops, but what matters most is what happens in that space with her.

That moment where things suddenly make sense.

Why I Still Go Back

Since moving to Cyprus, I still see her a few times a year.

Not because something is wrong.

But because it keeps me aligned.

It helps me come back to myself.

It gives me clarity when life starts to feel noisy again.

It has become part of how I take care of myself.

Why I’m Sharing This (Even If It’s Personal)

I know I am not the only one who has felt like this.

Lost.

Overwhelmed.

Disconnected.

Trying to keep everything together while something inside feels off.

And we think we should handle it alone.

But we don’t have to.

Sometimes, all it takes is the right person to help you see clearly again.

What This Experience Changed in Me

I don’t have the perfect words.

I probably never will.

But I know this.

Meeting Wilhelmina de Boer changed something in me.

Not in a dramatic way.

Not overnight.

But in a real, deep and lasting way.

And for that, I will always be grateful.

Contact

If you feel like you need clarity, support, or simply someone who truly listens, I can honestly recommend Wilhelmina.

Wilhelmina de Boer Dekker, Psychologist, Counselor, Coach, Psychotherapist, Supervisor, and Reiki Master Teacher, Cyprus

Phone: +357 99 93 59 79

Email: holisticcyprus@cytanet.com.cy